Dating a guy in the secret service
When he took a whole day to respond to a text, I thought, , and made a point to let his last text message dangle there, suspended in the no-response void, the way mine had.Later on, a mutual friend of ours would mention to him that I was bummed out by how abruptly things had ended. The mixer cannot be transferable to another person or replaced for any other Millionaire’s Club service.If an email or text comes from registered member this will be accepted as a membership termination. Once the termination is in effect the membership cannot be reinstated or transferable to another person.I had only made my first few sweaty, six-digits-and-hang-up forays into the art of calling a crush when AIM came along and mercifully gave me an out.I loved AIM; I liked that having to type everything meant I couldn’t blurt out something embarrassing, and I felt immense gratitude that it wasn’t obvious when I was scrambling for what to say next.
I guess at the blissful old age of 32, he does not, on a minute-by-minute basis, fight off the competing anxieties of “Am I texting too much? ” that I do when I like someone; I guess his texting habits naturally ebb and flow when he gets sick or has a particularly busy week (imagine that).
Even stranger, I’m discovering that those times when my voice is unsteady or my words aren’t materializing are the times when I should pick up the phone, not shy away from it.
I’ve spent a lot of years being afraid of what would happen if someone could tell I was fumbling for what to say, or if I accidentally revealed exactly what was on my mind.
Among “Younger Millennials” in places like New York, texting is often the sole, tenuous thread that connects people who wouldn’t otherwise run into each other.
For a certain micro-generation of us, a text’s true function is mostly to deliver a bit of subtext: So when, a month after we’d met, he told me he’d been feeling under the weather lately and his texts slowed to a halting trickle, I did what I thought I had to: I took the hint.